While we may think it’s around Christmas that we spend most of our time celebrating, actually it’s the summertime when we spend more time than ever enjoying the longer days, warmer weather and a calendar that contains barbecues, weddings, garden parties and plenty of other social gatherings.
For those in alcohol rehab recovery that can be challenging, as such gatherings can often involve alcohol, in some cases drugs, and other triggers that can put recovery at risk. Often that can lead to people shunning gatherings altogether but with careful preparation it is possible to enjoy summer parties while also protecting your own sobriety.
But how to do that? Well, there are lots of ways to navigate parties and events across the summer and here are five tips for you to consider…
Plan Ahead and Know Your Limits
Preparation is key. Before attending any event, take the time to assess the situation. Who will be there? Will alcohol or other substances be present? Is there a safe way to leave if things become uncomfortable? Having a clear exit strategy can provide peace of mind. For some, it might be as simple as driving themselves so they can leave at any time; for others, it may involve arranging for a supportive friend or family member to accompany them. Setting a time limit before arriving can also help. By deciding in advance how long you’ll stay, you give yourself a natural boundary to prevent situations from escalating.
Bring Your Own Non-Alcoholic Drinks
One of the most common triggers at summer parties is the abundance of alcoholic beverages. Bringing your own non-alcoholic drinks ensures you’ll always have a safe and enjoyable option to hand. Many supermarkets now stock a wide range of alcohol-free beers, wines, and mocktails, which can help you feel included in the festivities without compromising your sobriety. Having your drink already in hand can also help ward off offers of alcohol from well-meaning friends or acquaintances who may not know your situation.
Practise Saying “No” Confidently
Peer pressure can be subtle but powerful. A simple offer of a drink can feel loaded with expectation, and repeatedly turning down offers can become exhausting. Practising polite but firm responses beforehand can help. Phrases such as “I’m driving tonight,” “I’m not drinking these days,” or “I’m fine with what I’ve got, thank you” are usually sufficient. Most people will respect your decision without pressing further, but having rehearsed responses can make these interactions feel less stressful.
Surround Yourself with Supportive People
Who you attend the party with can make a significant difference. If possible, go with friends or family who are aware of your recovery and who can offer support if needed. Having an ally who can spot signs of discomfort, distract you if conversations become challenging, or simply be a source of reassurance can be invaluable. Some people in recovery also choose to connect with their sponsor or support group before and after social events to reinforce their commitment and gain encouragement.
Focus on Enjoying the Moment
While it’s important to remain vigilant, don’t forget to enjoy yourself. Recovery isn’t about missing out, it’s about creating new, healthier experiences. Focus on the aspects of the party that bring you joy: good food, lively conversations, music, or simply being outdoors in the sunshine. Engaging in activities like games, dancing, or helping the host can also serve as positive distractions. Shifting your focus towards these enjoyable elements can make the event feel fulfilling and rewarding without the need for substances.
